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Great advice! I’d known about attachment theory for a while but I like your practical advice at the end. I have not heard anything like that before, but it makes sense.

Did you forget to follow this advice yourself ? 😂

This has been so helpful, thank you ❤ I'm very happy that I seem to be further along in my healing journey than I give myself credit for.

What would you say is a good jewlery company that is good for not turning green?

This is one of the best videos I’ve seen on this topic. My attachment style is the exactly the same as yours. I’ve been nothing but cold to amazing and patient guys and my heart gets broken by nothing situationships. My tendency is isolation but I look forward to an active dating stage (my avoidant side usually hates dating lol)

Thanks!

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2:30 Comfort Zone & Fear 3:45 Change 5:00 Haters 7:30 Family 8:30 Keep Shinin! 9:10 Scapegoats & Accountability 🔥🎯 9:45 Rejection 11:40 Afraid of Attention 12:55 Competence & Confidence 13:45 Exposure Therapy 15:45 Update Hardware

Amazing 😍❤️

Wife and mom for the last 19 years here. I can absolutely attest to what she's saying at 14:00 Parents (but mom's especially) feeling like they don't have enough time for themselves and "losing" themselves during parenthood. Yes, this happens when boundaries aren't set. When you say Yes to too much. It happens slowly, then suddenly years of self-abandonment have gone by. The game changer for me was to KNOW my preferences and DEMAND them. You never really HAVE to do anything. So stop doing everything!

Thank you ❤

Your hair looks SO GOOD in this!!!

I agree with the general principles! I also really like the 80/20 rule. Roughly 80% of the benefit comes from 20% of the effort. Seriously, if most people could work on their fitness, wear fitted, stylish clothing, have good grooming, get their teeth straightened, and learn how to style their hair they will be most of the way there!!!

I love the story about the parrot ♥ And everything about this video is so helpful 🥺🌺

U look adorable with the hoodie❤

I have that person😅😅thought of her as soon as you said it

I'm sorry but guys don't give a shit about anything other than maybe exercise, cooking, and makeup and whether your sport is very masculine or not. I mean just be yourself. He's going to be able to tell that you don't actually read philosophy if you don't normally read philosophy. If you don't follow the stock market, who's going to be able to tell in under 5 minutes. Most guys are VERY SIMPLE! They're like answer me 2 questions: 1) How hot is she? 2) Is she a psycho? A 60 year old billionaire that owns and runs two companies can be seduced and fall in love with a 22 year-old woman without a college degree who speaks English as her second language... For example imagine not ‘making him wait’ after the third date and you're scheduling a fourth date to go to an art museum so you can tell him how cultured and intellectually cosmopolitan you are. so that he will really want to chase you.. if hes high value and he has options, after the second date he's checked out. Just keeping it a thousand...🤷🏾‍♂️

I'm a heterosexual guy and i can verify that you nailed it with straight up clinical precision and stunning lucidity!!

I also just hope kids dont see this they just need the bottom two levels maybe make a video for young under 15 or so people

The older I get the more I realize that the secret to success in any avenue in life is to be comfortable being bored. It's not through chasing instant gratification that will fulfill you, it's the process of focusing and enduring the slow and long growing pains that will bear you the most fruit. The grass isn't greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it.

Id love to move up the pyramid but for now i am doing the best i can with my income and where i live... but i may set aside a small savings for the blushing that sounds lovely anything to use less makeup for awhile ❤.

Omg its exactly how i feel. Im at stage 3 pls guide me how to get out of this zone

Girlllll this is what I've been struggling with ALL the time but wasn't able to pinpoint.....omg you're a SAVIOUR 3:48

Awesome

I see so much of myself in you!! I’m not indian, but also a brown dominican girl, raised in Italy, where I always felt ‘different’ and out of place. I’m also a Taurus (may 1st) and also 27! I also was addicted to weed for quite a while and it left me in a huge depression after it killed all my dopamine and productivity. Since the first the first time I saw one of your videos I felt immediately pulled towards you and your energy; and the more you share about your life and the more I see , the more I feel connected to you in a spiritual way ♥️ Thank you for being such an inspiration for all women and for impacting my life the way you are doing.

Where is the shirt from? ❤

Skin and laser specialist here: Level 3 and 4 can be expensive but also think about how waxing per session is the same price as laser per session, quite often anyways. It’s worth having sessions as you can go afford it, even though he’s packages are best and cheaper in the long run. Ideally for best results, have a full course but even a few treatments in will give you amazing results and make life easier for you. Been doing laser for 3 years In regards to skin: The Ordinary was a personal favourite of mine when I didn’t have much money. Get a good weekly strong and effective at home safe chemical peel. Especially after using acids, always use sunscreen. Even if you don’t use daily serums, just always apply and reapply sunscreen during the day, especially in the summer. I’ve got the basics to level 3 and bits of level 4 down simply because of the industry I work and specialise in and have most connections in.

Wow, you have such beautiful eyes💞 Thank you for the video, from someone who has both anxious and avoidant attachment styles I appreciate listening to others' experiences and learning from them, it really helps. Right now I am more into the avoidant type, but working towards a secure attachment style.

I'm seeing a girl right now who's attachment style(s) I've identified. I've sprinkled in some awareness for her but can only do so much "as a guy." Having this from an actually self-aware female perspective is helpful. Appreciate you putting this out there for other good (but currently crazy) women to see and understand about themselves what "us guys" see plain as day. We need more women like this speaking out about how to handle their feminine emotions in a more rational and healthy way. Us guys are frankly tired of not only dealing with, but also being blamed for the issues of some women that we have nothing to do with. Ladies, if you've got a good man and show the capacity and/or desire to grow and understand yourself better he'll ride with you. We want to make your life better for our being a part of it. If/when you don't there's nothing more a good, grounded, driven, and self-respecting man can do but take his cue to walk away. If you do you're a diamond in the rough. Do the work. Trust me. The good men you want in your lives will be waiting for you on the other side.

Lifehouse metaphor is brilliant! I will be listening to this video every day. Thank you Vickita for sharing the wisdom! ❤️

Do you offer coaching of any kind for men?

Damn this girl speaks so much truth it can be painful to hear! Respect 👊

Ooooo love this!!!! 💖

Thank you for summing up my dating patterns-I totally get what you mean by the ick and feeling grossed out when guys like me too much-

This was so helpful! ❤

It implies the idea that there are 'bad thoughts' and good ones. But human brain is complicated, is grey, not black or white.

Love your videos!

This is very valuable information. It applies to all relationships

Thank you so much for talking about this topic! Thank youuu Vickita!! 👁🙏❤❤

How do you decipher negative thoughts vs intuition?

learning to decipher between the two languages is so true! I hadn't thought of it like that before. Thank you so much Vickita 🤎

Thanks, Vickita!

Please like this so I can come back to this AMAZING video! I am confident, but there are lingering fears of embarrassing myself. 😅

Furthermore, physical beauty fades much earlier than any of us is ready for. Strive to be interesting and kind.

I’m just avoidant and it’s still a nightmare

MOTHER HAS POSTEEDDD!!!!

This checklist, while nice, is financially unobtainable to most. The intentions are good but definitely marginal. I’m higher middle class & wouldn’t consider many of the level 2 basics

I uploaded a video similar to this. You explained it so much better than I did! 🙂‍↕️💖💕🌷love your content! Blessings girly ✨

This genuinely helped my anxiety just now

i remember one line from alice in wonderland story, when she scream "off, your head" after kill the dragon.